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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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things i’ve learned from nearly 2 years raising garden snails:

mydogisabutt

- they have best friends
- they’ll go out of their way to sit on their best friends, kiss their best friends, and share lunch with them
- lettuce is to snails what a favorite ball is to a dog
- if ur tasty they’ll give u gentle scrapes
- they are SOCIAL!!!!!
- they all have very distinct personalities and quirks
- they like comfort, they are affectionate
- u can actually tell when a snail is sleepy because they’ll only stick their stalks halfway out and wiggle them gently
- they’re very curious
- they’re very clean and they love maintaining their shells
- cuttlebone YUMMY, make shell BIG

Source: mydogisabutt
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advicefromsurvivors

Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling this urge to make absolutely sure that the people you actually care about aren’t mad or upset, because to you, “there’s no evidence that they’re not angry” is the same as “there’s evidence that they are angry”

solitarelee

I have never heard this put into words before but it explains so much. Even as a kid I was constantly scared my mom was mad just when she was making a neutral expression cause she could go from 0 to 60 with no other warning. 

ancient-string

Omg I didn’t realise. I do this. I’m constantly checking that people are ok and not mad.

Because that’s what my dad did. 0-rage monster in a second.

anguisettesnakedtruth

Hyper vigilance over other people’s emotional state because of previous / repeated / continuous exposure to volatile people is seriously just…the most exhausting, fucked up, draining, relationship-fucking, driving-yourself-mad thing and it is so rarely explained well or talked about at all and I’m SO GLAD this post is going around. 

If someone is even slightly less than being 100% positive/happy/approving of me I pick up on it right away, even if it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and I fret and stress and am on edge. Which is so unfair because other people are allowed to have feelings and they’re allowed to express those feelings and it’s almost never about me anyway. 

And then trying to explain that you expect them to be volatile assholes when they’ve never shown any evidence of being that way, and trying to say that it’s not personal, is almost impossible. Because it’s always taken personally and how can they not, really? 

millenniumfalconteahouse

Me constantly asking “Are you mad at me?” Or some variation there of.

Source: advicefromsurvivors